Thanks to my friend, Alfreda Jackson, for hitting on a great acronym for managing the “mistake mindset.”
S= Stop: When you make a mistake, take a moment.
A= Acknowledge: recognize the mistake for what it is, and apologize or make amends, when necessary.
R= Remind yourself that you’re human, not bad. Choose to accept guilt over shame. (Brené Brown, shame researcher and author of Daring Greatly, contrasts guilt–“I DID something bad”–with shame, which causes one to say, “I AM bad.”)
A= Ask: What do I want/need to learn from this?
As a recovering perfectionist, I appreciate the simplicity of this acronym. It reminds me that mistakes are opportunities for growth, not derision. Rather than stopping my progress, they can actually help me move forward.