Routine Rules!

      Close your eyes. Picture yourself at work, with a boss who is inconsistent in defining expectations. One day, your performance is judged on criteria A. Days later, Boss decides A is not as important as B. You start working on B but within a day or two, A is back...

Decide What YOU Will Do…and Follow Through!

      I think one of the most satisfying moments in a parenting class is when a parent sits up a little straighter, their eyebrows go up and I can almost see the light bulb flash on over their head as they muse, “So in order to get my child to change HIS behavior, I...

Building Blocks for Cooperation: Limited Choices

I remember, when my boys were babies, that I couldn’t wait until they learned to speak. All that pointing and grunting, improvised sign language, and fits of anger when I didn’t understand, would stop when they learned to use language, right? Well, mostly. But then...

Ask, Don’t Tell

    Raise your hand if you remember watching Charlie Brown specials on TV. Now, raise the other hand if you remember how the adults in those specials talked. “Wa…wa wa wa WA wa,” was all they ever said. Sometimes, when I am dispensing some of my hard-earned wisdom to...

I am…

I am not what happened to me.  I am what I choose to become.–Carl Jung Food for thought: What does this quotation mean to you? How are you living your life in a way that reflects the power of this quotation? What is one thing you could change to live your life...